I had a rude awakening.
Tonight was the first night in our parenting lives we left our children with a paid a babysitter at our own house, and it went wonderfully well.
[I feel like quite the grown up hiring my first babysitter]
Both kids adored their new friend and as I drove their new friend home, she went on and on about how nice, well behaved, and beautiful our girls were. I loved hearing it all-I wish I could be a fly on the wall watching the way my children interact with grown ups when I'm not around.
But then she said, "Its so funny, every time I would tell Zuri's shes good at something, she'd change the subject!" I replied by saying, "Ya, She always does that!"
For example, she'll get called beautiful, or smart, and then be like, "uhhhh ya, so Wemi can crawl down our stairs now. Wanna see?"
She'll completely veer off onto something else. I laugh and shrug it off, but when this young adult girl noticed it enough to say something-it got me thinking.
...And I was thinking that I do that, too.
I'm really self deprecating without trying to be. It's not like I can't take and appreciate a good compliment---because I do love a good hearted compliment as much as the next person... But I think its just my sense of humor to undervalue myself and/or my abilities.
Maybe it makes me a little uncomfortable....? I don't know.
But my children have obviously picked up on it, and are doing it too.
Then, I remembered a pin I saw a long time ago by Kate Winslet.
I went to pinterest and realized I didn't even pin it, but its stuck out in my memory....
So, I found it:
I absolutely love it.
So, for the sake of my children, I am making a conscious decision to stop my self deprecating ways, not even about my body, but about everything I do....even though its so funny.
And the next time someone says, "ohhh dayyyum! You have skinny legs!"
I'm going to be like, "Ya! I love 'em! They work so good, too-watch me do this back flip.."